Let's see....Last Friday was Cal's team meeting at DFS where I did, indeed, draw the short straw and had the pleasure of telling 2 attornies, Bio Mom, Nana, and the Social Worker all about Cal's recent school suspension (#5, I think) and disclosure that he sees a person who lives in his closet that talks to him: GOOD TIMES!!!!!
I explained that we care about Cal and wanted them to know what we were seeeing. That we are seeing a greater frequency of his outburts at home and suspendable behavior episodes at school, the time between episodes is shortening and the duration of the episodes are lengthening...in additon he has been recently diagnosed with Tourettes, and that Tourettes often does not like to travel alone - we may be seeing the beginnings of something else going on for Cal. I'm no therapist, but as his foster Mom, I am worried.....
Mom's attorney tried to "pooh-pooh" all that I said ....he suggested it was because Cal was under stress over being in foster care and there was nothing to worry about once he came home to Bio-Mom.
Anyhow - who cares what the lawyer said - Nana totally appreciated me sharing and Mom really heard my concerns and was able to filter the gory details I was spewing. The Social Worker was releived to have slithered out of actually having to do the discloure....My intention was to give them a "heads up"...and I think it was successful.
So the end result is Cal goes home to Mom this Friday. He called Nana about an hour after the meeting and she told him the good news. We call it a HAPPY-SAD...happy you are going home, but sad you won't be with us.....He is crawling out of his skin excited and is so manic-hyper...and so worried about all the changes...Tough time for him.
He has very mixed feelings about going home - and so do we.
Saying lots of prayers for Cal's transition home. And prayers for you as you say goodbye to one of your babies. Foster moms are such unsung heroes. Even though I don't know Cal- I am so glad he has you in his corner! It's wonderful women like you and the other mother who give these precious kiddos a fighting chance.
ReplyDeleteI am so sad for Cal. And, glad that he has his mom and mainly (it sounds like) his Nana willing to step up, acknowledge the concerns you shared. I hope that acknowledgement will turn into action to get him the treatment he needs. I hope the SW is on board with getting him the help he needs. Hugs to you for providing the care that you do.
ReplyDeleteGood for you on the disclosure. And how scary for Cal and you that their seems to be more going on than tourettes. I wish him all the luck.
ReplyDeletekeeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers, hope the week goes ok and that he can cope with the stress.
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ReplyDeleteoh, sad for you but happy for Cal and I hope his biomom can manage him.
ReplyDeleteI shared some sunshine with you, head to my blog for the details - you get double it seems.
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