Fabulous meeting today with Baby Dee andBio-Mom's Team to work out the details in her transition plan. There were nine of us there. Mom's 3 bedroom house will be available on March 1. Mom and big brother will move, and settle in. Lisa, Her DFS social worker from here will go to the house that Friday, check it out and give the A-OK. Lisa will remain her primary worker for 30 days until the case transfers to the other side of the state. That same Friday The Other Mother, boys and I will drive the baby to the other side of the state and bring her to Mom. We'll get to see the house, breathe a sigh of relief and then bawl our eyes out when we say goodbye. We'll stay in a nearby town with the boys and have a mini-vacation weekend. This way, we'll be close enough for Mom if she needs us to help out with anything. DFS has suggested I go with Mom to her initial appointments with the baby's new physicians as Mom would have difficulty reporting/presenting the info. They are supporting our ongoing connection and encouraging our active role in helping Mom. They have left it pretty loose how we manage the thrice weekly visits for the next month. Yeah DFS!!!!
In mid February we'll have Mom to our house to show her where the baby stayed, her room, our family, etc. I think it will help to have a picture of who we are/where we live. It will also give me a chance to "show" Mom how to mix her formula and 2 supplements, go over some PT stuff and show off the baby's skills, etc. I think it will surprise the heck out of her to realize we live a mile away from the rehab program where she lives. Our kids ride the bus togther and we've done a great job of maintaining privacy for everyone up until about 3 weeks ago when Bobby saw Bio-Mom at the bus stop and recognized her from the photo I took of her and the baby that is on the baby's bureau. He agreed to keep it quiet and understood the whole confidentiality thing.
Today at her 6 month check up, the baby had 4 shots (vaccines/flu etc). Ouch. Mom and I began to talk about where she'd like to have the baby's baptism as last week she had asked me to be god-mother. Still not sure if it will be here - or the other side of the state...
Yawn. I am so done with this day. Really.
Good job y'all, good job!
ReplyDeleteLove that there is a strong transition plan and love how y'all are included in it. Expecting great things!
ReplyDeleteThis absolutely seems like f.care truly working at its best. All the players focussed together on a successful and positive outcome for child and parent. Hats off to you for helping to make that happen.
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